Posts Tagged ‘parenting’

My Daughter, the Unchristian

January 18, 2010 Leave a comment
This weekend my daughter told me that she didn’t want to be a Christian. Before I get to that though, let’s rewind a bit…

My parents raised us three boys to be independent. This was both intentional and unintentional. Intentional in that they wanted to make us into adults that could think and act on our own. Unintentional in that they both had to work long hours to make ends meet thus leaving us to fend for ourselves a lot of the time, beginning as young as 8-years-old.

Overall I like how my parents did things because I think I turned out okay, eventually. With my own two kids however, I am trying to minimize how often they “fend for themselves” while still empowering them to be free thinkers. My daughter turns seven in a few days and my son just started middle school. He is eleven. To facilitate this free-thinking-ness, I encourage honest conversation about the things we all three do wrong personally, from lusting to lying. On the whole, I am very strict about the movies we watch, but I use any “bad” moment in a movie as a teaching opportunity. Read more…


What a Ride!

October 5, 2005 Leave a comment

I worked too many hours last week and every week before that for several months, so this Sunday night I decided to take it easy this week. On Monday morning I took my son Josh to school as usual then dropped off his sister Jordan in Huntington Beach. I live in northeastern Irvine and it was Monday morning so Jordan and I were in the car together for at least 20 minutes. I have talked to both of my kids since the day they were each born as though they understood every word. Jordan is two and does not understand a lot but I’d still say that she is a great conversationalist. As soon as I got back into my car to head to work in southern Irvine I missed her. I went to say something to her then quickly realized that she was not there. I was sad the rest of the way to work.

I arrived at work and proceeded to… um… work. At around 2 pm, I got a call from Joshua’s school. Apparently, his school had a shortened day that week and they had been unsuccessful in reaching his mom. So, I told my boss what I was doing and headed out. On the way to pick him up it occurred to me that I wanted a short week anyway and Josh has been begging me for months to take him to Disneyland without his sister so that he and I could go on all of the big rides. I called my work and his mom to verify that it would be cool and then I went and picked him up, but I did not tell him my plans. I convinced him to change into cooler clothes and to eat a snack before we left the apartment. He had no clue what we were doing until the moment we got off at the oh-so-familiar freeway exit in Anaheim. HE GOT SO EXCITED! We had a great time. We went on all of the coasters at Disneyland (not California Adventure) plus Indian Jones, the recently remodeled haunted house, and Splash Mountain. Our favorite by far was Space Mountain! I scared him so much before getting on Indiana Jones that he would not open his eyes for fear that looking at the “idol” would kill him. Bad, bad daddy! Fortunately, he enjoyed the ride anyway. By the end of the night, he was raising his arms in the air on Big Thunder Mountain and Space Mountain and bragging to everyone he could.

Tuesday was nearly as exciting but the Angels have just tied the Yankees at two runs apiece so I need to get of this darned electronic glowing device… and go watch a different one.